As we step into October and the sacred shadow season, I want to take a moment to acknowledge something: Last Tuesday, there was no email news update.
Some of you noticed—and reached out—and I'm grateful. The truth is, I did post the update on my social media and tantrasd.codecrab.net/, but in the midst of travel and preparation, I missed the email. No excuses—just an oversight. And I honor that, for many of you, these weekly messages are a grounding rhythm. Thank you for holding me to my own devotion.
The reason? I was on my way to serve at the California Tantra Festival. Where I had the privilege of guiding sacred connection and witnessing powerful transformation in our global community. I’m still reeling from the depth, beauty, and breakthrough that happened there. My heart is full, my spirit cracked open in the best of ways.
The Beauty of Imperfection
This experience reminded me of something I’ve learned again and again on the Tantric path: we don’t need to be perfect to be present.
In fact, the moments we miss the mark, fall short, or forget something, we are being offered a chance to come back with more humility, clarity, and heart. That’s the real medicine of this shadow season: we don’t shed our masks to reveal perfection. We shed them to reclaim our wholeness….mess and all.
In Vedic Astrology, we’re moving deeper into the influence of the 8th House, the realm of transformation, death, rebirth, and hidden truths. The 8th House is where we meet what we’ve been avoiding. Where the ego dissolves, and where profound healing becomes possible. This isn’t comfortable work. But it is sacred work.
October invites us to walk willingly into that depth—not to be consumed by it, but to be transformed by it.
Sacred Snuggles & a Birthday Wish
As October unfolds, I’m also preparing for something a little more personal: my birthday is October 4t.. And I’m celebrating by hosting one of my favorite events: The Sacred Snuggle Lab – a beautiful space of healing, affection, and conscious platonic touch.
It would mean the world to have some of you there. Whether we’ve hugged a thousand times or never met, I invite you to come share in this warm, heart-centered experience. Let’s remind each other that healing doesn’t always have to be hard; it can be soft, silly, nurturing, and profoundly sacred.
This Week’s Reflection
What happens when you allow yourself to miss a beat without self-punishment?
How do you show up when the rhythm returns?
Let this week be about grace in your return, depth in your pause, and humanness in your sacred journey.
This Month’s Invitation
I’d love to hear from you: What imperfection have you been hiding? What would it feel like to let it be seen? Reply to this email, comment on the blog, or share your reflection on social—let’s normalize the messy, beautiful truth of being human.
October Events & Offerings
Sacred Snuggle Lab (My Birthday Celebration!) – Saturday, Oct 4th
A warm, playful space for healing touch and conscious affection
Join Us
Full Moon Ceremony – Monday, Oct 6th
Release what no longer serves and honor the light within the dark
Register Here
New Moon Ceremony – Tuesday, Oct 21st
Plant seeds in the fertile dark and embrace new beginnings
Get Tickets
Las Vegas November Events
I’ll be teaching Tantric Massage, leading Temple Night, and more
See Full Schedule
Resources & Deep Dives
Related Reading:
- Beyond the Pedestal: Real Accountability in Spiritual Teaching – On owning our humanity as teachers
- Why I Lied About Where I Live: A Personal Journey – Vulnerability and truth-telling
- Facing Fire: What I Learned from Community Conflict – Shadow work in real time
Let’s walk this shadow season together, with heart, with honesty, and with open arms.
